Paul Newman :I am certain that nobody can always be responsible for what other people are you can only be responsible for who you are


Decades into his singularly successful career as an actor, Paul Newman offered a frank admission. “I am faced with the appalling fact that I don’t know anything,” he said.

Newman was in his 60s when he made this confession, by which time he had starred in a lifetime’s worth of seminal films, including “Cat on a Hot Tin Roof,” “The Hustler,” “Hud,” “Cool Hand Luke” and “The Verdict.” He was an instantly recognizable if reluctant celebrity, idolized for his calm manner, his piercing blue eyes and his seemingly storybook marriage to the equally accomplished Joanne Woodward. He had raised a family and held a spot on President Nixon’s enemies list for his advocacy of liberal causes. He went on to drive racecars and immerse himself in philanthropy.

Yet Newman, who died in 2008, was dogged by self-doubt, perpetually questioning his choices and plagued by past mistakes. “I’m always anxious about admitting to failure,” he said. “To not being good enough, to not being right.” Despite his hesitations, he added, “I am certain that nobody can always be responsible for what other people are. You can only be responsible for who you are.”

Newman’s lifelong insecurity is one of the more striking themes to emerge from a posthumous memoir by the actor, titled “The Extraordinary Life of an Ordinary Man.” The book, which Knopf will release on Tuesday, is surprising for the remarkable candor of its subject, one of the most accomplished and reticent actors from an era when the perpetual documentation of daily life was not a precondition for fame.

Paul Newman and Joanne Woodward read a script with James Costigan in 1964, when the three starred together in Costigan’s play “Baby Want a Kiss” on Broadway.
Paul Newman and Joanne Woodward read a script with James Costigan in 1964, when the three starred together in Costigan’s play “Baby Want a Kiss” on Broadway.Credit…Philippe Halsman

Newman does not hold back on sensitive topics: He digs deep into his memories and reflects at length on his difficult childhood, the earlier marriage he abandoned before he wed Woodward, his excessive drinking and the loss of his son, Scott, who died from an accidental overdose of drugs and alcohol.

The vulnerability that Newman reveals in the book is astonishing even to people who knew him intimately. “I thought he was Superman, until my early 20s and even after that,” said Clea Newman Soderlund, the youngest of the actor’s five daughters. Though she was familiar with many of the stories her father shares, she said, “I definitely didn’t know how complex and how traumatizing they were for him.”

The memoir is not the result of Paul Newman sitting down at a keyboard and typing out his personal history. The book is assembled from five years’ worth of interviews that the actor gave, between 1986 and 1991, to Stewart Stern, the screenwriter (“Rebel Without a Cause”) and a close friend.

Stern himself died in 2015, at a time when the interviews were presumed lost; those transcripts were only recently recovered, along with transcripts of conversations that Stern conducted with Newman’s family members (including Woodward) and collaborators like Elia Kazan, George Roy Hill and Martin Ritt.

Their voices are also included in the book, fulfilling Newman’s desire that they buttress his accounts of events — or, when necessary, contradict his misapprehensions — and provide a fuller picture of who he was.

“He was fascinated by this idea of how people viewed him versus how he felt about himself,” said his daughter Melissa Newman. “I always had this vision of my dad standing beside a giant billboard of himself. And he’s waving at the bottom of the billboard, going, ‘I’m over here.’”

In late September, she was speaking from the rustic abode in Westport, Conn., that she called the “hippie home,” which her parents bought some 60 years ago (and she later bought from them), stuffed from top to bottom with mementos from their lives and careers: photos of her father with Frank Sinatra and Louis Armstrong, and of her mother washing dogs in the kitchen sink.

On the other side of the Aspetuck River was another family dwelling, a wood-paneled barn home whose décor was dominated by a large portrait of Newman as Buffalo Bill. The path between the two properties went over a footbridge and past a treehouse that many years ago, Soderlund said, was where Woodward “used to go and hide from all of us when she couldn’t take it anymore.”

It was in a laundry room on this estate that a family friend, the filmmaker and producer Emily Wachtel, found a locked cabinet containing a tranche of Stern’s interviews with Newman’s colleagues and confidants. Later, Wachtel discovered that a storage unit held the transcripts of Newman’s own interviews with Stern.

“There were these boxes that said ‘P.N. history,’ and I opened them and it was like 5,000 pages,” Wachtel said. “The family hadn’t seen them.”

Sifting through the raw transcripts was a difficult task for Newman’s daughters. “I was just paralyzed by his deep sadness,” Soderlund said. “That heaviness was really hard for me. I had to read them in bits and pieces.”

With the assistance of a literary agent, the Newman family sold a biographical project based on the transcripts to Knopf, and with the publisher’s help, David Rosenthal — a veteran book and magazine editor — was hired to compile the material into a memoir.

Rosenthal, who has previously edited works by Hunter S. Thompson and Carrie Fisher, said he was used to “people who deliver their books in shopping bags,” and wasn’t rattled by the prospect of starting from reams of unorganized interview pages delivered in a banker’s box.

Though there was some discussion of releasing the book as an oral history, Rosenthal said that presenting it as a memoir from Newman was more profound and powerful. “You’ve got enough of his voice to make it first person without substantially changing anything,” he said.

And the Newman who comes through in his interviews is hardly the unflappable star that audiences thought they knew. “There is a line of sadness that permeates so much of his early adulthood,” Rosenthal said. “This is a guy who is not comfortable in his own skin, and who was very obsessive about things that went wrong.”

Beginning with a scene of himself seated on a couch in his library where, Newman says, “I just smoked a joint and remembered with absolute clarity the whole map of my boyhood hometown,” he recounts his upbringing in Shaker Heights, Ohio. Newman’s father helped run the family’s sporting-goods company, drank heavily and seemed uninterested in his children. His mother, by contrast, practically fetishized him, and Newman compares himself to one of her dogs “who became cancerous and so obese they could hardly move, and my mother would keep feeding them chocolates until she killed them with kindness.”


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